Nature of urge

Bondage is that which when not done, gives pain.
Have you noticed what happens when you get an urge/ desire?

There are three stages.
When the desire arises, it brings along excitation, promise of joy, a hope, anticipation and also some anxiety.
If you are lucky ( or unlucky! ask me later why!) enough, the desire gets fulfilled, and during its fulfillment there is a transient experience of joy, a thrill.
Lastly after fulfilling, one is tired.

If you don't necessarily run to fulfill a desire, be lazy in working for a desire, then you will see that desires rise and fall within you! They come and pass by.
Observing these three stages frees you from them.
jaigurudev.